In the West, many different types and forms of Tantra are offered. My preference is if you have never had a Tantra massage before first experiencing my Kaya Awakening massage. Here I explain the connection to Tantra and you get acquainted with it. My Kaya Tantra massage can release a lot of sexual energy and without experience perhaps a little too overwhelming. I like to build it up slowly.
We start the session with an intake and explanation and you can indicate what you want and especially what you do not want. Then in sarong we start a breathing ritual to relax . When you’re ready, the sarong ritual is done I invite you to the futon. I will then start the massage and use warm coconut oil. I work from a holistic view, which means that the body is considered as one whole part and I touch you from head to toe. My touch can activate your sexual energy and I will work with this vital energy. My hands will communicate with your body and therefore you can intensely experience this sexual energy.
But Tantra is much more ….
Tantra is a path of self-examination. It is the execution of deep love and interest in the mystery of life and all its manifestations. Tantra is about your own truth, about recognizing and acknowledging it. Dare to be in contact with it. It is about life awareness and being who you really are. Tantra is a life lesson and says: Just be yourself. Society has a tendency to put us into boxes, whether you are gay, straight, bisexual, married or partnered or whatever….. Tantra is not about judging you. It requires a great willingness to look through your self and your limitations and to understand this. This creates space for transformation and growth.
The path of Tantra invites you to be present in all of this, to be in touch, sensitively, with yourself and with others. Tantra does not distinguish between vital energy and sexual energy. It is pure, primal and powerful, and in its natural flow is a source of inspiration and creation power.
Tantra invites you to release sexual energy and not want to hold it tightly. You may examine, feel, meet, recognize and embrace this sexual energy. For the curious investigation and feeling of your own sexual energy you do not to have sex, just as you can feel and explore anger without being destructive. The way Tantra offers different rituals for this self-examination of your own liveliness, strength, playfulness and spirituality. Tantra emphasizes that everything you are looking for can be found in yourself. It helps you to focus the attention inside to find balance within yourself and thereby to get to know another person better with empathy. This separates you from the misconception that the key to personal growth lies with others.
Physical touch is an important need for life. For many of us the touch is more exciting than relaxing because we almost always touch or touches with a goal or expectation. Through loving, non-intentional touch, fixed emotions can start flowing again, can be felt again, may be discharged and released. A safe space and a loving environment are important conditions for experiencing deep intimacy with yourself. Being intimate with yourself means being able to relax and experience surrender close to your own feelings. This is true essence and brings you back to your own self.